Some tips to improve communication Sadly, we aren’t born with the innate ability to effectively communicate but it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn.
Use the following techniques to better navigate and limit the tension in your relationship:10. Before you’ve hit the point of no return and as you see the stress beginning to escalate, one or both of you can call a break so that cooler heads can prevail.
Tension will dissipate and from here, solutions can spring. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede.
Just be sure to use kind, non-reactive phrasing when expressing these bottom layer feelings, such as “I felt hurt by…” as a replacement for “You’re such a jerk” etc.12. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blow out or lingering frustration.13. It’s well understood that apologizing is a good thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it.
Leading from this place can create confusion, defensiveness and ultimately distract from the real issue. What feelings are really driving your reactions such as disappointment, rejection, loneliness, disrespect etc.).